There are moments when I think, “Man, I’ve really got this mom thing down!” My house might be relatively clean. The laundry might be caught up. My kids might be getting along.
Then mornings like yesterday happen, and I’m quickly reminded that I am so not supermom.
After a particularly tough week of kids fighting, toilets growing dirtier, and baby being extra fussy, I was really looking forward to my mom coming over for a few hours so I could actually get a few things done. I had a dentist appointment, which is sort of like a vacation in the season of life, and a brief window of free time after the dentist before I had to head to my youngest baby’s 4 month check-up.
As I was leaving the dentist office, I thought “Hey, I can save some time by placing my Starbucks order on my phone, and then I’ll have time to swing by Sprout’s and get some fruits and veggies before I have to go home and nurse the baby before heading to his appointment.”
I value efficiency and productivity–and coffee–so this seemed like a great plan.
I get to Starbucks where my drink was supposed to be ready in 4-6 minutes from when I placed my order, and it had been that long and then some. I graciously waited a few minutes and finally asked where my drink was. The point was speed, right? The girl behind the counter said they didn’t have a phone order.
Oh. You mean the app automatically chooses the Starbucks you’re closest to when placing the order (and I was by my dentist, which was the other direction), and it also asks you to verify that that’s the one you want to go to?
So my drink was ready. 10 minutes in the other direction. Where there is no Sprouts.
Ok, you know what? I’m flexible. I roll with it. That’s what moms do, right? We go with the flow. So I decide to make the best of it and stop by the grocery store next to the Starbucks that actually had my drink waiting for me.
Everything was working out. I got my drink and I was getting some fruits and veggies in my allotted window of time.
Does anyone want to take a guess at what happens next?
I reached for my purse, found my $5 off coupon for this grocery store (way to go, me!) and then…
I DIDN’T HAVE MY WALLET. I couldn’t pay for my food.
My wallet was at home in the diaper bag, which I didn’t have with me because I was kid-free and using a purse. I had been driving all morning with no license, and now I was that lady in the check-out line who had to “suspend the transaction” for all to see.
Needless to say, the morning didn’t turn out to be quite as efficient and productive as I had hoped. And I was just a little humbled.
Being a mom often feels like we’re juggling 50 things all at once, and that can really wear a person out. I don’t know about you, but for me this is by far the hardest I’ve ever worked in my life. I’m guessing you might feel the same. We’re on 24/7. We’re always multi-tasking. The task list is never-ending.
(here we are attempting family photos…everyone smile!)
There are rings in all 3 of my toilets. Like the gross kind of ring that appears when a little too much time has passed since the last cleaning. And the laundry. Oh the laundry that never ends. I keep pushing and shoving the clothes down as far as they will go in the hamper so that I can continue to feel ok with not doing it.
Tell me I’m not the only one who does that!
There’s no such thing as supermom. We all have good days and bad days. Moments of awesomeness and moments when you just need to laugh at yourself. And every day we are EXACTLY who our kids need.
This season is going to change so quickly. Let’s embrace it–in all it’s messiness and chaos–instead of trying to become supermom. The bathroom toilet can wait. The hot coffee can wait. That extra hug or extra book or extra tea party is really what it’s all about.
All my fellow Anne of Green Gables fans will understand this quote. Anne says to Gilbert at the end of the second movie, “I don’t want diamond sunbursts or marble halls. I just want you.” Thank you, Anne with an E, for perspective. Our kids don’t want supermom. They just want us.